How do you remember your last trip here?

"The last time I came was with a new boyfriend and it wasn't a relationship that was going to last. I always tell people: "Don't go there, unless you are really sure you're in love." This place intensifies whatever emotion you have going. When I came here the last time, I still had a lot of unfinished baggage with me. I had just gone through a really terrible divoce and lost my father. I remember being out here on matus (islets) and under the beautiful moonlight just weeping uncontrollably over the loss of my father and finding myself deeply questioning everything in my life. Which doesn't go down well if you're trying to star a new relationship!"

In spite of that, you came back to the island of Intensity as you put it, and you are having a wonderful time..

"Yes, I came back because I feel very secure about the relationship James and I have. I feel our relationship grows in leaps and bounds every day. It doesn't mean it's always easy. I think the pressures of the world, the changes in my career, the pace at which we live our lives, our commitment to six children can make life- challenging.

What was the most moving part of your ceremony?

Well, first of all, watching James be rowed in wearing that beautiful headdress.

At first I figured this is kind of corny- a couple of pink people wearing coconuts and feathers is like some kind of bad movie- but there was actually something kind of wonderful about him wrapped in his white cermonial pareo and headdres. We were sitting there in a very private ceremony, but there were all of these wonderful people focusing on celebrating our love, with the children that came from that love, with the children we had so much trouble conceiving- everything together made the cremony extremely special.

" I think because James and I have been up and down in terms of marriage and have had relationships that didn't work, it has been even more profound for us to celebrate the ten-year mark with our two children.